Do You Have the Emphasis on the Wrong Syllable? [episode 36]
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Welcome to another Unleash Your Power Session!
As you move toward any intentions you’ve set for yourself this year, I think it’s essential to first take an objective look at just what you’ve set your sights on creating in your life. You probably know that I start most of these Sessions by asking a powerful question to catapult your mind toward possibility thinking.
So before I get to that question, it makes sense to tell you that I come from a family that includes many artists, poets and writers so we’re used to having lots of fun with language. And that includes one of our favorite silly sayings which is: “Are you putting the emPHASis on the wrong sylLABle?”
This is just a funny way of asking if what you’re focusing on is actually the most effective and most efficient way to reach the goal you have in mind.
What I’m suggesting is that there just may be an alternate and better way to get you to from point A to point B in the shortest time possible. And this alternate short-cut may not have occurred to you… yet. The goal of this power session is to open your mind so that new and creative solutions can bubble up to the level of your conscious thought.
However, if you’ve got your priorities mixed up and your emphasis on the wrong syllable, the technique I’m about to share with you may have slipped under your radar altogether.
I’m guessing you’re a lot like me… You want what you want and you want it now! If that’s true, this episode is going to give you a whole new way to have your cake and eat it too. And that’s the perfect segue into my next question: “What do you truly want from this life before you leave it?”
As a Success Coach, it’s easy to assume that part of what I do is to help people get rich. If you’ve been following my show, you know by now that money is only one dimension of true wealth.
So my point is that where you put your emphasis makes all the difference in the world. Emphasis is the importance you attach to something; something like becoming a millionaire.
For simplicity’s sake, let’s assume that that IS your goal. Take a second to imagine what having a million dollars might look like.
Perhaps the picture in your mind’s eye includes:
- a beautiful home
- plenty of leisure time
- social status or better relationships
- and the resources to make a greater contribution to humanity
Do any of those ring true for you? If so, I’d like you to consider something really important: that none of those outcomes is dependent on you actually getting rich. It’s true!
The only difference that wealth makes in any of those scenarios is the scale on which you experience them. Here’s an example to illustrate my point.
Let’s say you’re driving around in an old car. It’s got some dents, the stereo is broken and the fan belt squeaks, but it gets you where you want to go. One day, you trade it in and lease yourself a nice set of wheels that makes you feel more confident, more successful and, perhaps without admitting it, it makes you a little sexier too.
Yeah, this car is good for your image so you drive it around for a while until suddenly you lose your job. Living paycheck to paycheck, you’re forced to take it back and downgrade to a less expensive car.
The reality is that having something you judge as being inferior has no bearing on your value to the world… unless you say so. The latest fashions, a bigger house, a richer spouse… none of those things really make a difference if, when they go away, your pride and identity go along with them.
Do you use life’s luxuries as evidence to prove something to yourself? Do your possessions have the distorted power to affirm your worth or do you acquire them so you can give yourself permission to experience yourself differently than you do now?
The key word I want you to focus on in that sentence is PERMISSION. And, more importantly, that you can give yourself permission to behave as you think a rich person would without all the conditions and circumstances you believe are prerequisites to being rich in deed, in action, and in attitude.
So, let me ask you again. What do you REALLY want? What are the pleasurable feelings you associate with having that possession or social standing? Do you need an estate with a garden and a nice tree to hang your hammock in? Or could you simply allow yourself to sleep in the shade at a local park when your body wants to rest?
Do you need the degree to get the job to make the money to buy the tools to remodel the kitchen to house the fridge that keeps the food? Or could you, just for once, feed your soul what it really needs; learning at last to open the invitation to the long-awaited feast of self-consent that you’ve hungered for in vain?
Yes, to nourish your best self in the fastest way you can choose to be wealthy right now. It means to give yourself the permission only YOU can grant. It requires cutting out all of the unnecessary steps between who you think you are and who you would allow yourself to be once you’ve finally met all of your conditions.
In the words of Sid Caesar…
“In between goals is a thing called life, that has to be lived and enjoyed.”
Starting today, I’m inviting you to a 10-day challenge in order to support you in living as a truly prosperous person. Here’s what I’d like you to do:
On a blank sheet of paper, list your starting position at the top (where your life is at now). In the middle, write down your intended goal then fill in steps between where you are and where you’d like to end up. At the bottom of the page, describe how you imagine you’ll feel upon reaching your destination.
The point of this exercise is to identify how it is that you can produce the desirable inner feelings you’ve associated with your goal while skipping past all of the outward steps, actions and milestones you’ve put in the way of having that feeling. I hope you find this challenge to be a very valuable exercise to having the experience of your life that you want to have, whenever you want to have it.
Thank YOU for being a valued part of the Express Success community. Now go and Unleash Your Power!